Ex-Dominatrix: A True Story – our exclusive review of near-final cut!
Starring: Goddess Ira, Charlotte Abracadabra
Directed by: Darren Cavanagh
Produced by: Darren Cavanagh and
Danielle Fautrat (Voila Films)
Reviewed by TONY MITCHELL
Ex-Dominatrix: A True Story, Darren Cavanagh’s documentary about legendary Belgian domina Goddess Ira (aka Lucrezia) is close to completion. And we’ve had a sneak preview of the latest version, now near enough finished for us to give the film its first, exclusive review right here on The Fetishistas.
After an Indiegogo campaign to crowdfund the final stages of production, Cavanagh’s first feature-length project was originally slated for release in autumn 2016.
But having already spent five years and a shed-load of his own money on it, the director was loath to put it out before he could finance some additional polishing to achieve the final quality he really wanted.
Has the extra waiting time been worth it? I think it has. With Ex-Dominatrix, Cavanagh presents a stimulating insight into the life of a top professional dominatrix. He includes lots of glimpses of the lady in character and in action that will be both entertaining and informative for fetish audiences.
But his film is also a fascinating human story from a world that is rarely treated with much sympathy or understanding by mainstream media.
His determination to create a film with high cinematic production values (including a great soundtrack by Noko) means Ex-Dominatrix: A True Story should impress regular cinema audiences but also do well in the documentary sections of serious film festivals.
As followers of our earlier reports on the project will already know, the film sets out to tell the truth about — and explore the consequences of — an unfortunate event that befell the domina in 2010.
As the film’s narrative makes clear before the main titles have even appeared on the screen, that was the year Ira found herself facing a possible murder charge following a tragic accident at her Antwerp studio.
But having whetted the viewer’s appetite with this promise of drama to come, Cavanagh’s film then takes us back in time to paint a picture of Ira’s early life. He does this by way of photos and movie clips, contextualised by interview snippets from various people who know her, all of whom attest to the specialness of her character.
Ira herself is the film’s chief narrator. But among the many other voices we hear are those of family, friends, clients, clients who have become friends, and other dominas.
After a brief jump to more recent times and a glimpse of Ira’s current life in Goa, Ex-Dominatrix continues to build up its picture of her earlier life, from school days when she was already exhibiting a taste for being in charge, through various jobs including that of a horse trainer, to her decision, aged 30, to embark on a new career… as a man trainer!
She might have realised a little later than some that by becoming a professional mistress, she could make a good living out of her striking looks and naturally dominant disposition. But once the idea had taken hold, she made up for lost time pretty quickly.
Known then as Mistress Lucrezia, she performed an extreme whipping show during the Absolute Kink weekend in Amsterdam. I think it was probably the hardest-core performance most of the crowd had ever seen at a fetish party, and the general verdict was: this is one scary lady.
But offstage, she was friendly and charming — something that would be demonstrated to me on many subsequent occasions.
My first encounter with Ira’s daughter Charlotte — a poolside conversation at Berlin’s KitKatClub during a German Fetish Ball weekend — was equally memorable.
Only after our chat did I discover that the articulate and precociously confident young woman I’d been talking with was Lucrezia’s daughter. One could hardly not be intrigued by such a discovery, and some of the film’s most fascinating revelations concern their quite extraordinary mother-daughter relationship.
The middle section of Ex-Dominatrix deals at length with the period from the accident at Ira’s studio up to her decision, once freed from custody, to jump on a plane to Mexico because she could no longer cope with what was going on at home.
This is the film’s point of high drama, and I don’t want to spoil this part of the story for those who don’t already know it.
Suffice to say that even if you’re familiar with the press coverage at the time (most of which was predictably over-the-top), there is enough fresh detail in the personal accounts included here from Ira, Charlotte, other family members and friends to cast a very different light on the whole affair.
In Mexico, with her daugher’s help, Ira was able to finally begin healing her psychological scars, before starting a new life in Goa as a yoga teacher.
For me, the most poignant scenes of the whole movie occur when mother and daughter have returned temporarily to Belgium. Back in Antwerp, Charlotte (who has since become a mother herself) is seen picking her way through the remains of the now demolished family home, forfeited when Ira was forced into bankruptcy.
Among the rubble, Charlotte comes across a torn flyer from a Dominatrix party. And in a nearby builder’s skip she finds remnants of her bedroom, dumped by the demolition crew. It’s testament to her strength of character that she manages to handle these discoveries with a smile. Personally I found it pretty heartbreaking.
Ex-Dominatrix: A True Story sets a new standard for documentary features inspired by the fetish/BDSM scene — not least because its aim is to tell a human interest story, not just tease its audience with tales of kinkiness (though there are plenty of those too).
The humanity of its approach undoubtedly has the potential to broaden the movie’s attraction beyond its immediate market among kinksters. It should appeal to anyone who enjoys the films of people like Nick Broomfield and Louis Theroux — whether or not they also happen to be pervs.
Published March 30, 2017
Tags: Documentaries, Dominatrixes, Feature Length Films, Legal